Moving from ordinary love relationship to a spiritual love relationship
What is ordinary love relationship?
Love relationship based on common values in our society.
Love relationship based on neediness and attachment.
I love you and it means I need you to be with me. I need you to fill me up with happiness. I need you to cheer me up. I am very empty and unhappy that’s why I need you to make my life better. I feel incomplete until the day you come into my life and complete me.
Any relationship means the energy exchange between individuals. We are not just advanced animal being with strong reptilian brain influence; we are very advance spiritual beings who need to stand up for our own responsibility of life. And relationship is the most important area to developing our spiritual side.
I know this is an elusive answer; but this is the only way to grow our spiritual side within love relationship – Unconditional Love
The foundation of unconditional love located at our heart (anahata) and throat (vishudda) chakra. This is energized by communication.
Unconditional love needs no role playing or dogma based on society rules. Man should be like this and woman should be like that……it is old fashion you know 
Leave behind that old patterns and limiting beliefs. You must be who you are, not your partner. This will create many areas for growth.
The energy of unconditional will says: I love you for who you are. I accept you. I encourage all the supports in your growth to what you will become . It is also energy in yourselves at the same time says: I love and accept myself for who I am and what I will become. I allow myself to grow and explore my beings to transform become all I will be
There must be an ability to share joy, happiness and laughter, to exchange much unconditional love energy. This must be balanced with sharing and support during growth experiences, challenges and releasing. It needs communication and the problem blocked in this area may cause throat chakra problem. This will lead to heart chakra and the difficulties to enter unconditional love state. There must be willingness to work out with finding methods to find balance in some issues, problems that are not being met. Any unsolved problem that not communicates well in honest and truthful manners will give it less than unconditional love.
The most important is the shared commitment to maintaining the relationship. Elements of joy are essential, whether: earthy activities, spirituality, insight, and common sexual interest. More the same interests and values in those areas will be a good channeling activity for unconditional love.
For unconditional love there is simply a need to create a balance of energies that will benefit all, and let all engaged to have their needs met and considered when creating the shared reality.
Our partner in a love relationship or anyone who shares reality with us, serve as teacher or mirror for us in our spiritual growth.
It is mostly happen issues and problem arises in the relationship are signs for us to look within ourselves whether we have release the old patterns that no longer serve in a positive way or still deep down buried in the unconscious level.
It is no time pointing our finger towards your partner about your development problem.
Think that as a learning point of view and respect them for their roles in helping you in your spiritual development.
(inspired by my severe throat problem from inability to communicate and expressing myself truthfully and sent unconditional love few times ago. Thank to “him” who has been very patient, loving and taken the light sides of my crankiness and zeal with humour in it:)
