Your partner as your unsconscious image of yourself.
Your partner will become a mirror, and through him you will be able to know yourself.
Love affairs has become something very interesting and yet complex issues in human lives. A man and woman are very different creatures that tend to attracts when they have so much thing in differentiation. You will always attract to someone whom you think very different with yourself. It creates a strange curiosity in you and slowly you develop interest on him. Interestingly, you will attract on someone with qualities that you don’t have yourself. The purpose of love relationship is the melting and union of two opposites becomes one, to complete the whole purpose of creation and perfection.
Many people don’t realize that our partner is the mirror of your state of consciousness at the moment. The universe works in a mysterious and funny way. Our purpose in life is to gain understanding about ourselves and evolve as beings. Once you move into higher realm of your level of consciousness; you will attracts surrounding with same qualities around you. It could be new friends and new lover. You will attract a love partner that will mirror and challenge your inner quality.
Men and women have unconscious issues that sometimes have been overlooked or prefer not to be seen in the reality. An insecure woman will attract man with same problem and manifested by childish and immature behavior. Someone who has fear about intimacy will attract the other with same problem too, manifested by a person who has difficulties in commitment. Strangely, once your consciousness level changes, so your partner, it might be your old ones with changing consciousness too or could be just totally new partner.
Look at your partner eyes, let your partner be your mirror, you will see your unconscious quality of you. You will see your fear, your hidden obsession, your desire, your sadness that has been suppressed for so long. You will see the ugliness of you and wondering if that your lover fault. Love relationship has opened us to the deeper level of our soul. Go beyond intimacy, layer by layer, you will reveal yourself. In the uneasiness process, you will start thinking and find something to blame outside. It must be your lover imperfection or your relationship doesn’t fit well, you don’t belong each other, and again the same repeating old cycle happened; you are not happy and think that maybe better you call off this relationship and move to find somebody suitable for you. Sadly, this process will repeat again, until and only when you move together in deep meditative relationship, only compassion and awareness will stop you from this never ending circle.
Only in the love relationship, men and women by time will reveal their honest and truest quality. By time you will not be able to maintain your ‘want to be image’. The pain, the ugliness, the fear all will come up to the surface then you will start to yell each other and love turn to hatred. Love and hatred are same actually; same intensity and quality. You wonder of why by being alone you such a cool person than suddenly being with someone has turn you into jealousy and obsessive person? Yes by being alone you don’t have a mirror to see your face. Being with someone and he is reflecting your face, now you know that you still have those things and only suppress them. Funny, a woman like this will attract a man who will always challenge her into jealousy and anger.
A man who fears intimacy because he doesn’t want getting hurt; he will seeks endlessly and involves in the love affairs. He is longing for love, to feel in love but when love finally arises surround him, he starts to freak out and put some distance. This kind of man will also attract a woman with similar problem about insecurity and their relationship will be vulnerable and lack of trust.
Just step out when all those feeling arises within you, observe and accept that you still have fear, anger, jealousy, pain etc. Don’t suppress that and feel guilty about neither yourself nor pointing the finger towards your lover and put the entire burden on him. Now it is time to be meditative and observe all those emotion. Be grateful for your partner since he is there to be your mirror.
Remember about law of attraction; you will attract a person with similar quality as you. Even you might argue and said but my partner is totally different with me. Maybe yes outside quality but inside unconsciously he or she is you.
You will be surprise when you become patient and observe of all those things; then you will be able to detach between you and the emotion. More you observe more you detach and suddenly in the beautiful morning you will see your partner eyes to find only love, compassion and friendship there. You will see your face reflected there; pure, glowing, beautiful without any stain of those old things that has been suffered you.
So your partner; he sees nothing in your eyes only his purity and glowing face. The love relationship has evolved and changes into the higher realm, more conscious with more loving quality.
COURAGE !
Hmm, easier to change your partner than change yourself consciously. Not easy job to do. Do we have choices?
Who said it will be easy ? damn no ! haha
Yes agreed. Easier change your partner than your consciousness self. (I did that few times too
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We have choices of course in life. What you want to be? For me I ‘m tired repeating the same old story; and stop pointing towards my partner, it was me attracted them. So instead of changing my partner (as i usually did ..) I want to evolve myself spiritually and moving towards higher. I decided to cut my karma off. I choose to change my consciousness self, and see …maybe i change my partner again but now with different consciousness or can be too my existing one with changing consciousness.
Law of Attraction, remember ?
Change yourself and you will be amazed of what will happen in your surrounding.
Universe never lies