To Love and To Share

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The joy of love is the exploration of consciousness. Love is not a relationship. Love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love is a constant adventure. –OSHO

Human beings have created a lifestyle in which Love has become a property. Something that you will possessed and controlled over your capability. Love is something of most people accomplishes what they think they require by trading. They trade what they already have for what they seek to have. This is an illusion what we called Love.

Sometimes we confuse the idea of love and need. You need the presence of someone in order to fulfill your happiness; then we will do almost anything to get it. We often heard in the love story or movies, the dialogue between two lovers; “You complete me”. “You are my other half”. Now, that idea has given us perception that we “need” someone or something outside to make us feel complete and happy as a human being. How can you love the other if you feel incomplete about yourself? How can you share the joy of love if you haven’t had enough in yourself? Instead, you desperately need a continuous affection from outside to make you feel secured and loved.

Suffering comes from the expectation. Expectation reduces freedom and freedom is the essence of love. Love always gives the greatest gift. By loving your partner not for what he can give you, but simply for the freedom whom he is; and this is a greatest gift you could give them. It is also a freedom of becoming who you are and not seeking approval from the other in order to make you feel loved. We can drop our expectation when we don’t require a person to show up as we imagine we need them to be. This is only happening when we love ourselves exactly as we are. How can we experience that we don’t allow others to experience? We don’t place limitations on them; yet we place limitation on ourselves.

Love is relating, means a process of continuously trying to explore each other. Marriage or declaration of your love relationship doesn’t mean anything related to love. Most people thought that marriage is the answer to keep love forever between them. In fact, when we start to think that marriage is the final process of love, then it’s time for love to leave us forever. When we are in love, we will feel possessed by the unknown power that takes us away from our secure place. We know by getting in love means we will open our heart to the possibility of getting hurt. Instead of let ourselves embraced by love to take us into the new journey and adventure; we try to secure love and preserve it by what we calling marriage. Marriage becomes our nest to keep love forever inside.

The nature of love is a freedom, like a river flowing that will lead you to the unravel world of mystery. When you are in love, you will explore each other personality and Soul. It is a never ending process to see deeper into his inner feelings and his Being. He becomes a mirror to you. When you go deeper on him, you will see and exploring yourself too. In every layer you will reveal your own consciousness. What you find it’s the mirror of your own Being; and love becomes a meditation and Enlightenment.

In many of marriage life, people stop to explore love. They don’t see each other eyes anymore, and assume that we have known our partner well. Love dies, when the exploration to the inside journey finished. Let love take you to the new journey; to the unknown world that will lead you to the new experience and wisdom. When you start to institutionalize love and put limitation on it, -in order to preserve it with you; love will be but trade love.

You can have a commitment or marry someone you love, but it should come from the heart with full of awareness, and not from fear. Living in Love, always find the ways of loving each other and being each other. Remember that you are perfect already as human being; you don’t need anything outside to fulfill you.

On the other hand, share your love, share your joy and share your Soul to the other. Give yourself totally and never ask in return. Feel the moment a higher quality of intimacy when you free yourself from fear and expectation. You may share your dreams, your goals together. Never put restriction on your beloved ones; grow with him emotionally, spiritually and let love grows within you. If at the end the journey take each of you to the different road, it is okay. Be grateful for the wisdom and joy you have shared each other along the time. Bless him and continue with your journey. Love is everywhere and our heart contains so much love to share.

You are freely to define of who you are and who you choose to be. It doesn’t have to transform into desire to control or possess over him. When you love compassionately and work through whatever challenges may present between you; you have given Love the freedom to grow which might take you to the wonderful opportunity to explore the world together.

Enjoy the ride!